I've been back to the old peoples home a couple of times. Old people must feel the cold because they have it bloody hot in there. I always leave feeling dehydrated.
But its been good. I just go around and talk to people or read the paper to them and help them on the computer. One woman loves the computer and gets a lot of emails but she didn't know how to forward emails. That was a bit sad actually. I thought, do your kids get so damn busy that they don't even have the time to show you how to forward an email. Anyway I showed her and left some written notes and told her to email me if she had any problems. She sent me an email saying thank you and how much she appreciated the help and how I hadn't made her feel stupid.
Because I've noticed that people do tend to talk to old people as if they're stupid. They do if to my father. And he probably does look a bit stupid because he's had a stroke and he's all crooked. And though he may be cranky and difficult and stubborn he is definitely not stupid. But people tend to talk to him VERY LOUDLY and in a manner that
would make you assume he was a five year old with a particularly bad learning disability.
He was in hospital recently and I sent Daz to visit him and he said he could hear a few nurses yelling at Dad when he was walking down the hallway. They were telling him he was being difficult and that he wasn't trying. And then they were talking about him in front of him instead of talking to him. They were saying he wasn't trying because he wouldn't sit on the edge of the bed like they wanted him to. Well he only has one side that works so it's hard at the best of times to balance on the edge of a bed. So Dad got Daz to pick him up and carry him to a chair and they all freaked out because you're not allowed to lift people. Nurses won't even lift people any more because of a bad back policy they have. So they told Dad he'd have to sit in the chair all day until the machine came to lift him back into bed but he said bugger that and told Daz to lift him back into bed. Then he told them if they all just stopped yelling at him and spoke to him like a normal person everything would be much better.
Thats all anyone wants really, to be treated with a bit of respect.